Dear Vitamin C –
About 6 months ago one of my closest friends came into a lot of money. I was so happy for her in the beginning but now I can see that this new wealth has changed her personality and our friendship. She used to be kind and humble and now she seems judgmental and has a superior way about her, which makes it hard for me to be around her. Does money change people? Do I need to accept this and find new ways of connecting with her? We have a long history together and I don’t want to lose our friendship so I am not sure what to do.
$Confused$ in Seattle
Dear $Confused$ –
I don’t believe that money changes people but it does tend to amplify existing behaviors and beliefs. A secure person grounded and understanding who they are will likely experience more freedom and security in their life and possibly find and explore their generous spirit. An insecure person who is not well grounded in who they are or who may have felt inferior to others prior to coming into their good fortune may see money as the vehicle to help them feel better about themselves. The more a person presents superior behavior the more internal inferiority likely exists. If you want to continue a real friendship you have to tell your friend what you are experiencing in a very gentle and transparent way. Let her know how much you value the friendship and listen to her response. If things don’t change then you may need to re-evaluate the friendship because real friendship is built on all the things that money cannot buy.
Yours – Vitamin C